“AITA for telling my brother I met his new girlfriend at an AA meeting?”
Here’s the original post:
My brother started dating this new girl and I realized I recognized her from AA. I’m not an addict, but my lawyer recommended I attend some AA meetings to help strengthen an ongoing case against me. I know it’s her because I remember her very unique name from the AA meeting and she also talked for a very long time.
I thought it was important to mention it to my brother is because I’m worried about her as a partner to him. In AA, she mentioned that not only did she use hard drugs, but also that she feels like she can’t control herself. She also admitted to drugs making her verbally aggressive and unstable emotionally, and at the time she was not sober.
I know my brother, and I know that he holds himself and his partners to a high standard and that he hates drama in his relationship. I told him what she said and he broke up with her, and she basically stalked me and also called me an untrustworthy b^$ch who ruined her experience with AA.
Honestly I think I was just trying to help my brother out, but some of my friends think it was messed up for me to tell him. But I think it’s better for him to know what kind of person she is ahead of time. AITA?
Here’s what top commenters had to say:
YTA, did you forget the second ‘A’ stands for ‘anonymous’? Most go to these things to get help, not to try and make a fake showing for court because they can’t get a DD.
I can’t get over how this person just decided there is nothing they can learn. EVEN IF you are not an addict, you think you can’t learn something from people actively trying to overcome something difficult and make themselves better? REALLY, OP? You don’t find that admirable? You’d rather ruin the sanctity of the meeting and put their anonymity and recovery at risk? YTA.
YTA. You are a GIGANTIC AH. Do you not know the definition of the word ANONYMOUS? It is completely wrong to reveal anything people talked about in those meetings! That is their safe space and you just violated it.
YTA the AA anonymity rule is sacrosanct, how dare you violate the trust of people trying to get their life together? You absolutely disgust me.
This would be like eavesdropping on someone’s therapy session and then using what you heard to hurt them. It is beyond despicable.
Do you agree with commenters that this person is absolutely, 100%, no questions, a “gigantic” a-hole?
Well, she apparently read these comments. And she has since posted this update: